He can comfortably spend his Winter in a desert tent, cooking fresh meat over fahem, and brushing his teeth with a miswak. While I’m watching the Arab Ramadan shows, he’s fully invested in an episode of Daily Show or Colbert.There’s very little about him that fits into the stereotypical ‘bedoin’ mold.If he knew something bothered me or caused me pain, he wouldn’t do it, that simple.
I’m just so thankful, every day, that I married a man who is the perfect combination of East and West. We live in a very tribal area where Americans are almost never seen.
When we venture into the city or the malls no one even takes a second look.
But he also embraces the more positive things about the bedoin culture, such as how women should be treated.
Unfortunately there are a lot of misconceptions about how bedoin men treat their wives, and until you’re married to one, I suggest you don’t assume.
They accept I need a fork to eat my meals and they’ve always accommodated me without making me feel awkward.
I’m never left out of family events and they even go out of their way to embrace things from my culture.
I’ve heard horror stories of cheating, abuse, and outright disrespect.
But this takes place in marriages all over the world — it’s not exclusive to the Arab man. What I do find very interesting and even a bit odd at times are those who stare.
Men are actually responsible for a woman — very different than being superior.
Not only are they responsible for us financially, but also our emotional well-being.
This post is my little attempt at clearing up some of the misconceptions regarding the Arab/American marriages.