I don’t understand how she went to end things with him and ended up turning her back on her family in just a few short hours!
She said that they talked with his mother and that his mother supports their relationship.Her boyfriend and his mother have convinced her that her whole family is lying to her!I was reminded of this encounter when I recently read how one in five parents admits plotting to get rid of a child’s boyfriend or girlfriend, by withholding messages, hiding mobiles, stirring up arguments or enforcing a ban.I have learnt from experience that the quickest, most sure-fire way of seeing off someone you deem inappropriate for your teenager is to embrace them into the bosom of the family — and keep your feelings firmly hidden. By the time children reach secondary school, it can be counter-productive to tell them what to do.Ten minutes later, I was hanging out of my bedroom window wondering if the neighbours were watching, relaying a registration number to my policeman friend, so he could run a criminal check.
Sweetly, he had brought a load of kitchen equipment to cook us spaghetti Bolognese — his signature dish. When I came in a few minutes later, with two mugs of tea, there was a bouncing apart on the sofa.
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Recently it has come to the family’s attention that he smokes weed and has contacted other girls asking them to stay the night with him. I told her to pray about it and think about it and that she would know the right thing to do.
I sat my daughter down the other night and told her everything. The next morning she went to see him to end things.
She then proceeded to come home and tell me that she has decided that, after graduation, she will move away with him and live with him.
After all, her boyfriend was a lad I knew had just spent time at Her Majesty’s Pleasure for supplying illegal substances.