If you’ve spent your adult life being disconnected from your feelings, the first step is to learn to identify positive and negative emotion.It’s important to acknowledge just good and uncomfortable feelings to begin with.Your emotional safety is just as important as your physical safety.
Because it’s mostly silent and invisible, childhood emotional neglect is largely an overlooked phenomenon in psychology.
Unlike physical neglect or abuse, where there are signs such as bruises or children coming to school underfed, emotional neglect is difficult to identify as there are frequently no observable signs.
While having these symptoms doesn’t necessarily mean you were emotionally neglected, if you identify with more than one symptom, it may be worthwhile to talk with a therapist about the possibility.
First, let me say most parents are well-intentioned and well-meaning and generally do the best they can.
Once you have that down, you can focus on noting subtler nuances of feelings. Many adults who experienced emotional neglect as children are often unaware of what they need and typically don’t feel deserving of getting their needs met.
You may not even have words for how you feel, which is perfectly normal if you didn’t grow up in a home where people talked about their feelings. Develop your emotional vocabulary by researching emotions and needs online or at the library.Parents with narcissistic qualities feel the world revolves around them.It’s typically all about the parent’s needs instead of the child’s.As children, they seem like little adults, overburdened with worry about their families.So what can you do if you think you may have been emotionally neglected as a child? Learn to be aware of positive and negative emotions when you’re experiencing them.Permissive parents have a laissez-faire attitude about child rearing and may let children pretty much fend for themselves.