Even as we evaluate each other electronically, having never met, the perception of rejection is powerfully felt.And so, dating apps and online dating cause real pain when we’ve been swiped to the left instead of the right, or we weren’t messaged after having our profile viewed.
“The constant swiping and messaging and checking my app was becoming a chore.A boring chore that took out all the supposed ‘fun’ in dating.I lowkey really hate any kind of messaging, whether it’s texting or chatting on whatever app.” – Quyen, early twenties. Which gets repetitive, and then gets boring.” – Matt, late twenties.“I’ll just delete my dating apps temporarily to take a break from online dating in general.I think we reach dating fatigue because we reject, and are rejected, all too quickly before giving ourselves a chance to really know somebody.
I think women get dating fatigue because there is a strong sense in the dating world of being expendable, and men reach dating fatigue because there’s a sense of never measuring up.
I was talking to a group of my girlfriends the other day and the topic of dating came up. No, neither had entered into a relationship and was now deleting their apps because their exclusive relationship required it, but rather, they were deleting their apps because they were talking to too many men, going on too many uneventful first dates, sending out too many messages only to receive radio silence, and getting too many “Sups” from uninspired suitors.
These women were deleting their dating apps because they were tired.
I usually delete Tinder because I get no messages or matches.
And I really have no time for mindless small talk and flaky people.
“I have deleted my Tinder app three times because even after I swipe right two million times I never get a match and even that one rare time I do get a match, I never get a response when I message someone.