The good news for women out there is that the supposed ideal weight you’re aiming for might be significantly lower than what a man would consider ideal.
There was a study I read in college about body weight and attractiveness in women.
In other words, a woman who is the same size as another woman but has a higher amount of muscle than the other woman will actually weigh more than the less muscular woman.
So even though the woman looks better, she steps on the scale, sees a number she doesn’t like and then gets discouraged.
By the time of this interview, she had already given up and moved on, finally discovering her future husband while visiting old friends at her alma mater. Ryan (RD): What year did you sign up with an online dating website and how long did you keep your account? RD: What were the majority of messages that you received from guys like? I got some commenting on my picture telling me how “hot” I was…how “good” I looked.
Anonymous Woman (AW): I can’t remember the exact year I signed up… Actually, now that I think about it, that was how most of the messages I got started.
(This is an added note: To the women who are naturally skinny like a runway model, there’s nothing wrong with that.
My only point here is to women whose bodies don’t look like a runway model’s and feel they need to in order to get the best guy.) While I’m on the subject, most of the female celebrities that pop up on tabloids for getting super skinny also look horrifying to me…Some guys like skinny girls with no boobs and some guys don’t mind a little “thickness” as long as the girl is curvy with a big set protruding the front of her.However, women are constantly dieting and exercising to make their bodies look ideal for men (and to be healthy too, of course).Weight means your entire body weight – muscle, organs, fat, water, etc. Fit means that you have a low body fat percentage (for women, having a body fat percentage in the lower 20s is good).So weight-loss shouldn’t necessarily be anyone’s goal. The problem is that a lot of women will go all-out on cardio and never do any weight lifting because they don’t want to get big muscles. You would need to have the intention to put on muscle to put on enough muscle to appear abnormally muscle-y.Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.